Read this your Freshman year of High School

Some truth for you son. from your Dad.

Girls will always love and be found of you, you don't need to rush into a relationship, waiting for one that is different in every way is always a good plan. With that being said, there is no need to have a girlfriend in High School. That's time to focus on school, sports, and friendships. Those are the relationships that will last and the moments that will develop you. You don't need a girl to define your status, you define who you are and no one else. High School is tough enough and girls are way more unstable at that point. Keeping girls as friends is the best bet in high school, you don't need to complicate it with "benefits" they aren't your employer. Understand that you will feel the urge to put your penis in every girl with a short skirt but that urge is controlled by prayer and focus. Sticking your penis in things might seem like fun but it will only end up getting you in trouble. First of all her father is likely to kill you and I won't stop him. Secondly, everything is so awkward at that stage you are more likely to embarrass yourself. Lastly, any girl that says "lets do it" or any form of that, is trouble Straight up and you need to run. Just turn and run, any direction, just get gone and fast. Don't worry about explaining yourself, you don't even need pants. The door is a good place to start. Avoiding that situation is going to save you a lot of just complicated nonsense. Their trouble at that age and they don't get any less dangerous, they just get better at hiding it. Stay focused on school and just ride out the crazy emotions that you are experiencing, they don't go away, you just get better at controlling them. High school is a fun time and you should enjoy it but you have to remember that you will always pay the consequences for your choice, whether it be now or later. Develop a reputation for integrity.

Don't worry, by the time you get to college you will find there are even more girls that are going to fall in love with you. I'd suggest focusing on school, girls take a lot of time and money from you, there is no avoiding it. If you do decide to date, don't be nervous, any girl would be lucky to talk to you. Women enjoy attention just as much as you do, so be careful the attention you are giving them and the signal your are sending with that attention. You don't need to worry about having any previous dating experience, if you can make friends you can easily determine the plausibility of a true relationship flourishing into a piece of art designed by God. Trust me, no experience is required when it comes to dating women. Coffee is always a nice neutral setting where you can learn more about a woman than if you both thought it was a date. The easiest way to avoid emotional confusion and think reasonably about a relationship is to avoid the physical aspect for as long as possible. You will find it easy to love people but the only way to fully love a woman is without lust. Control your thoughts and you will control your emotions. Consider each girl you date carefully, you will leave a lasting impression on them and they will do the same to you. Make sure it's always a good impression that leaves her better than when she first met you. You aren't Prince Charming and in no way a Super Hero, so don't try to be. If you meet a girl that is looking for that, you'll have to inform her that you are Kyler and you will always try your best but it's impossible to live up to the unrealistic expectation that you will rescue them from their problems. You can most certainly help along the way and be supportive but you don't even want to try the job of super hero, that's best left to Jesus, try not to get in the way.

All in all son, you'll find the one that's been designed to better you everyday and you will better her. No need to rush any of it. You have time, trust me. You'll have to trust that God's plan is always better than yours. So when yours doesn't work, get excited, because it means God has better things planned. Remember, high school is only 4 years and when it comes down to it only one 20th of your life, that's like nothing. You'll survive that time, just make sure you have good friends not girlfriends. Trust God and hold on to the fact that when you can't see where he is taking you, you know it's better than the way you wanted to go. Keep your penis to yourself. After 4 years old it's not cute and no one wants to see it and it's better if you keep it in your pants.

Love Ya,
Dad

100 Quotes and inspiration

1

"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." Plato

2

"Don't wait for people to be friendly, show them how." Author Unknown

3

"For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind." Ralph Waldo Emerson

4

"For peace of mind, resign as general manager of the universe." Author Unknown

5

“You must do the things you think you cannot do." Eleanor Roosevelt

6

"Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value." Albert Einstein

7

"Compassion and tolerance are not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength." Dalai Lama

8

"When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself." Wayne Dyer

9

"Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure." Oprah Winfrey

10

"Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine." Anthony J. D'Angelo

11

"Faith can move mountains, but don't be surprised if God hands you a shovel." Author Unknown

12

"Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase." Martin Luther King Jr.

13

"In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you." Deepak Chopra

14

"Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier." Mother Teresa

15

"To be what you want to be, you must give up being what you are." Cat Stevens

16

"Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care." Theodore Roosevelt

17

"To bring anything into your life, imagine that it's already there!" Richard Bach

18

"To give anything less than your best is to sacrifice the gift." Steve Prefontaine

19

"Change the changeable, accept the unchangeable, and remove yourself from the unacceptable." Denis Waitley

20

"Don't frown because you never know who might be falling in love with your smile." Author Unknown

21

"Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn." Harriet Beecher Stowe

22

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world." Mahatma Gandhi

23

"Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

24

"If you judge people, you have no time to love them." Mother Teresa

25

"Too many people miss the silver lining because they're expecting gold." Maurice Setter

26

"Rule number one is, don't sweat the small stuff. Rule number two is, it's all small stuff." Robert Eliot

27

"Faith is building on what you know is here, so you can reach what you know is there." Cullen Hightower

28

"Regardless of your lot in life, you can build something beautiful on it." Zig Ziglar

29

"All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them." Walt Disney

30

"Anywhere is paradise; it's up to you." Author Unknown

31

"Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out." Art Linkletter

32

"Small deeds done are better than great deeds planned." Peter Marshall

33

"Don't find fault. Find a remedy." Henry Ford

34

"Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced." James Baldwin

35

"Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers." Garth Brooks

36

"You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you." Walt Disney

37

"When it is dark enough, you can see the stars." Ralph Waldo Emerson

38

"The soul would have no rainbow had the eyes no tears." John Vance Cheney

39

"The darkest hour has only sixty minutes." Morris Mandel

40

"When you're feeling your worst, that's when you get to know yourself the best." Leslie Grossman

41

"An apology is the superglue of life. It can repair just about anything." Lynn Johnston

42

"In faith there is enough light for those who want to believe and enough shadows to blind those who don't." Blaise Pascal

43

"Don't cry because its over, smile because it happened." Dr. Seuss

44

"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you." Lewis Smedes

45

"Do all things with love." Og Mandino

46

"Remember, if you're headed in the wrong direction, God allows U-turns!" Allison Gappa Bottke

47

"Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth." Benjamin Disraeli

48

"Believe deep down in your heart that you're destined to do great things." Joe Paterno

49

"Be kind whenever possible....It is always possible." Dalai Lama

50

"Develop a passion for learning. If you do, you will never cease to grow." Anthony J. D'Angelo

51

"If you cannot lift the load off another's back, do not walk away. Try to lighten it." Frank Tyger

52

"You don't have to be great to start - but you have to start to be great." John C. Maxwell

53

"It's kind of fun to do the impossible." Walt Disney

54

"Everyone wants to be appreciated, so if you appreciate someone, don't keep it a secret." Mary Kay Ash

55

"To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded." Ralph Waldo Emerson

56

"To see things in the seed, that is genius." Lao Tzu

57

"If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought." Peace Pilgrim

58

"Say not, 'I have found the truth,' but rather, 'I have found a truth.'" Kahlil Gibran

59

"Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference." Winston Churchill

60

"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault

61

"Whenever you fall, pick something up." Oswald Avery

62

"The impossible can always be broken down into possibilities." Author Unknown

63

"Toughness is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles." Alex Karras

64

"Some days there won't be a song in your heart. Sing anyway." Emory Austin

65

"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell

66

"Excellence is not a skill. It is an attitude. " Ralph Marston

67

"Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional." M. Kathleen Casey

68

"Turn your wounds into wisdom." Oprah Winfrey

69

"Sometimes in tragedy we find our life's purpose - the eye sheds a tear to find its focus." Robert Brault

70

"He who has a why to live can bear almost any how." Friedrich Nietzsche

71

"Don't cry when the sun is gone, because the tears won't let you see the stars." Violeta Parra

72

"The gem cannot be polished without friction nor man without trials." Confucius

73

"Faith is the bird that sings when the dawn is still dark." Rabindranath Tagore

74

"Clean out a corner of your mind and creativity will instantly fill it." Dee Hock

75

"Imagine no limitations; decide what's right and desirable before you decide what's possible." Brian Tracy

76

"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude." Maya Angelou

77

"Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience." Ralph Waldo Emerson

78

"Be careless in your dress if you will, but keep a tidy soul." Mark Twain

79

"Whatever good things we build end up building us." Jim Rohn

80

"If you cannot be a poet, be the poem." David Carradine

81

"Never look down on someone unless you're helping them up." Jesse Jackson

82

"Everything comes to us that belongs to us if we create the capacity to receive it." Rabindranath Tagore

83

"An old belief is like an old shoe. We so value its comfort that we fail to notice the hole in it." Robert Brault

84

"Remember when you see a man at the top of a mountain, he didn't fall there." Author Unknown

85

"Peace begins with a smile." Mother Teresa

86

"We cannot direct the wind but we can adjust the sails." Author Unknown

87

"A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world; everyone you meet is your mirror." Ken Keyes, Jr.

88

"Turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you." Maori Proverb

89

"A promise is a cloud; fulfillment is rain." Arabian Proverb

90

"Be content to act, and leave the talking to others." Baltasar Gracian

91

"If your work speaks for itself, don't interrupt." Henry J. Kaiser

92

"The vision must be followed by the venture. It is not enough to stare up the steps - we must step up the stairs." Vance Havner

93

"The best way out of a problem is through it." Author Unknown

94

"People may doubt what you say, but they will believe what you do." Lewis Cass

95

"A bend in the road is not the end of the road... unless you fail to make the turn." Author Unknown

96

"The only thing that overcomes hard luck is hard work." Harry Golden

97

"Every problem has in it the seeds of its own solution. If you don't have any problems, you don't get any seeds." Norman Vincent Peale

98

"The difficulties of life are intended to make us better, not bitter." Author Unknown

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"How can something bother you if you won't let it?" Terri Guillemets

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"Doubt is a pain too lonely to know that faith is his twin brother." Kahlil Gibran

Hard Work

Son, You will find that as part of the fallout of sin our work is supposed to be hard. Genesis 3:19 "By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken and to dust you will return.” Often you will find that that many things will demand a lot of you and it will require hard work to get through it. One of the most satisfying things for a man is to see the fruit of his hard work. You'll never want something that you can get with ease. You need to work hard for the things that matter most to you. That includes friends and family, your girlfriend or wife, and the relationship you will have with God. They all take tons of work to produce the kind of fruit that you want. It takes constant tending to and nurturing to develop any of these relationships into something beautiful.

God provide the easiest and some times the hardest relationship to build. All he ask is that you give up yourself completely. Some times this is easy to do when there isn't much to give up and some times it's harder to do. You just have to trust him fully. He does know what's best and has the best planned for you. To be honest, it's easier to just give him your whole life and not worry about where you are going to end up because you can't get any better than knowing God has your life in his hands.

There are many other places were hard work is going to do you well. Work, Sports, School, and even your health. If you always determine that you will work your hardest on whatever you do, you will always be happy with the outcome. Sometimes you don't get what you want but if you gave all you had there is nothing else you can do and the results of that are always acceptable. There is no better reward than giving all you had and seeing the fruits of that. Always keep your head up and put your nose to the grindstone. Work hard, work smart, and have fun.Proverbs 14:23 "All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty."

Love Ya,
Dad

Keep your head up

Son, always remember to keep you head up. I'll explain what I mean by that. There are so many things in this world that are going to demand everything of you and many will demand more than you can handle. Luckily you've got someone awesome on your side and He has overcome the world. Jesus is who you will always have walking with and carrying you. It might seem like this world is baring down on you and things most certainly will be tough, but there is no reason to fear or worry because Jesus has conquered this whole world, death couldn't even hold Him.
Job 42:2 "I know that you can do anything,
and no one can stop you."
Psalms 46:1 God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in
trouble.
God has your back. He promises things will be hard, He even says it will seem unbearable. But He also promises to provide you with enough strength, grace, and mercy to get through it all. If you ever feel like you might be forgetting this, just ask God to remind you and He will.
Love ya,
Dad

Joy

Son, sometimes you have to take joy in life, especially in the tough times. Joy is a wonderful thing. Joy is a sense of delight. Joy is different than Happiness. Happiness is defined by circumstance and what happens to you. Joy is a mind set, it's an emotion you decide to feel. James 1:2-4 says that we should consider it great Joy when we face many trials. Joy is a feeling you can have when you know there is more to look forward to. That is the promise God gives us. The promise that we will experience trials in this life but nothing can compare to the Joy that's coming. That ultimate Joy is when we finally make it to heaven to live eternally with Him. That is the Joy you can always look forward to and know that the joy you experience on earth can't even match up to what God's presence brings. Having a joyful outlook on life will always make the good times shine brighter and the bad ones fade away. You can always have joy knowing that God loves you, your mom loves you, and I love you. There is no better feeling than the love of God. Always remember to take joy and understand that the trials are the things that build us up and make us stronger.

Love ya,
Dad

20 things

1. You will set the tone for the sexual relationship, so don't take something away from her that you can't give back.
2. Play a sport. It will teach you how to win honorably, lose gracefully, respect authority, work with others, manage your time, and stay out of trouble. And maybe even throw or catch.
3. Use careful aim when you pee. If you miss, wipe it up.
4. Save money when you're young because you'll need it some day.
5. Figure out how to use the dishwasher, oven, washing machine, iron, vacuum, mop and broom. Using them is never below you and it will help you when you are on your own.
6. Pray and be a spiritual leader. Dad is your example and we can both always get better at it.
7. Don't ever be a bully and don't ever start a fight, but know when you should step in and fight for someone who can't.
8. Your knowledge and education is something that nobody can take away from you. The fear of God is the start of wisdom.
9. Treat everyone kindly, especially women. Forever is a long time to live alone and it's even longer to live with somebody who hates your guts.
10. Present yourself with integrity and let the good character you have inside show on the outside.
11. Be strong and tender at the same time.
12. It takes two to build a relationship. Both parties are equal. Mutual respect is the key to a good relationship.
13. Tone and attitude express your stance. Be respectful and communicate politely. You'll go further.
14. The reason that they're called "private parts" is because they're "private". There's no need to share them. Keep them to yourself. It will keep you out of trouble and away from heartache.
15. Peer pressure is a scary thing, what matters is what God thinks of you. Stand for who you are and don't be defined by others. Be a good leader and others will follow.
16. Bringing her flowers for no reason is always a good idea. Avoid doing it just when you're in trouble.
17. Be patriotic. Respect those who serve your country and state.
18. Potty humor is fine around the boys. Watch your mouth around women.
19. Please choose your spouse wisely. It's a commitment that last forever. My daughter-in-law will be the gatekeeper for me spending time with you and my grandchildren.
20. Remember to call your mom and dad because we will both always love hearing from you.

Love ya,
Dad

Endurance and Perseverance

Endurance, it's what is required to make it through much of this life. God says it this way, "Do not get tired of doing good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don't give up." Galatians 6:9. It takes lots of endurance and perseverance to push through hardship in life. There will be many times when life will throw everything at you all at once and you won't be sure if you can handle it. Truth is, you can't handle it alone, and that's the way God wants it. Even the strongest men fall before God. God does promise he will not tempt you beyond what you can bear 1 Cor 10:13 but he also promises that you will suffer but with the promise to renew you and give you strength. He is the one who carries us through our toughest times in life. There are going to be times when you feel like there is no way he is carrying you and you'll almost feel abandoned. If you feel that way just remember God said this in Hebrews 13:5 "I will never leave you nor forsake you." He's pretty much promising that there is nothing you can do to get him to leave you alone. Just ask Jonah.

Something I realized while working out was how easy it is to push through and give your all to the very end when you know where the end is. When you can see that clock tick down and when you see where the finish line is it's much easier to push your body beyond what your mind thinks it can do. When you don't know where the finish line is it's tough to give everything you have not knowing how much further you have to go. That's when your only option is to give everything you have until you're certain you can no longer walk. That is when you will see that harvest of your work. Not giving up and going until you've given everything. You'll know you haven't made it if you can still stand on your own. Many troubles in this life will take all the life out of you and it will be tough but know that there is always great reward in the harvest. James 1:2-4 Says that you should consider it GREAT Joy when you face trials of many kinds. When your faith is tested it has the chance to grow and persevere and when you let perseverance finish its work you'll become mature and lack nothing. This applies to many aspects in life and pretty much everything you do. If you persevere through much your sufferings won't be less but they won't be able shake you or bring you down. One day I'll teach you about a man named Job and how he learned this lesson.

Love ya,
Dad