Read this your Freshman year of High School

Some truth for you son. from your Dad.

Girls will always love and be found of you, you don't need to rush into a relationship, waiting for one that is different in every way is always a good plan. With that being said, there is no need to have a girlfriend in High School. That's time to focus on school, sports, and friendships. Those are the relationships that will last and the moments that will develop you. You don't need a girl to define your status, you define who you are and no one else. High School is tough enough and girls are way more unstable at that point. Keeping girls as friends is the best bet in high school, you don't need to complicate it with "benefits" they aren't your employer. Understand that you will feel the urge to put your penis in every girl with a short skirt but that urge is controlled by prayer and focus. Sticking your penis in things might seem like fun but it will only end up getting you in trouble. First of all her father is likely to kill you and I won't stop him. Secondly, everything is so awkward at that stage you are more likely to embarrass yourself. Lastly, any girl that says "lets do it" or any form of that, is trouble Straight up and you need to run. Just turn and run, any direction, just get gone and fast. Don't worry about explaining yourself, you don't even need pants. The door is a good place to start. Avoiding that situation is going to save you a lot of just complicated nonsense. Their trouble at that age and they don't get any less dangerous, they just get better at hiding it. Stay focused on school and just ride out the crazy emotions that you are experiencing, they don't go away, you just get better at controlling them. High school is a fun time and you should enjoy it but you have to remember that you will always pay the consequences for your choice, whether it be now or later. Develop a reputation for integrity.

Don't worry, by the time you get to college you will find there are even more girls that are going to fall in love with you. I'd suggest focusing on school, girls take a lot of time and money from you, there is no avoiding it. If you do decide to date, don't be nervous, any girl would be lucky to talk to you. Women enjoy attention just as much as you do, so be careful the attention you are giving them and the signal your are sending with that attention. You don't need to worry about having any previous dating experience, if you can make friends you can easily determine the plausibility of a true relationship flourishing into a piece of art designed by God. Trust me, no experience is required when it comes to dating women. Coffee is always a nice neutral setting where you can learn more about a woman than if you both thought it was a date. The easiest way to avoid emotional confusion and think reasonably about a relationship is to avoid the physical aspect for as long as possible. You will find it easy to love people but the only way to fully love a woman is without lust. Control your thoughts and you will control your emotions. Consider each girl you date carefully, you will leave a lasting impression on them and they will do the same to you. Make sure it's always a good impression that leaves her better than when she first met you. You aren't Prince Charming and in no way a Super Hero, so don't try to be. If you meet a girl that is looking for that, you'll have to inform her that you are Kyler and you will always try your best but it's impossible to live up to the unrealistic expectation that you will rescue them from their problems. You can most certainly help along the way and be supportive but you don't even want to try the job of super hero, that's best left to Jesus, try not to get in the way.

All in all son, you'll find the one that's been designed to better you everyday and you will better her. No need to rush any of it. You have time, trust me. You'll have to trust that God's plan is always better than yours. So when yours doesn't work, get excited, because it means God has better things planned. Remember, high school is only 4 years and when it comes down to it only one 20th of your life, that's like nothing. You'll survive that time, just make sure you have good friends not girlfriends. Trust God and hold on to the fact that when you can't see where he is taking you, you know it's better than the way you wanted to go. Keep your penis to yourself. After 4 years old it's not cute and no one wants to see it and it's better if you keep it in your pants.

Love Ya,
Dad